Robert Green, After the publication of my first book. “ The 48 laws of power,”. I began to receive requests for advice from people in every conceivable profession and at every level of experience Over the years. I have now personally consulted with over 100 different people. In so many cases, the following scenario would play itself out. They would come to me with a specific problem, a boss from hell, a business relationship that had turned ugly, or a promotion that never came. I would slowly direct their attention away from the boss and the job and instead get them to search inside themselves and try to find The emotional root of their discontent,
Often, as we talked it out, they would realize that at their core they felt deeply frustrated. Their creativity was not being realized. Their careers had somehow taken a wrong turn. What they wanted was something larger, a real and substantial change in their careers and their lives. It would be at this point that I would tell them a story about myself about my peculiar path to change and transformation from a highly unsuccessful writer, eking out an existence in a small one-bedroom apartment in Santa Monica to a best-selling, author seemingly overnight. I have never publicly Related this story before but for this special occasion my first TEDx talk. I thought I would share it with you because it’s very relevant to the subject of change. The story goes like this. I had known since an early age that I wanted to become a writer. I just couldn’t figure out what I wanted to write.
Perhaps it was novels or essays or plays After university. I drifted into journalism as a way to at least make a living. While writing Then, one day after several years of working as a writer and editor, I was having lunch with a man who had just edited an article I had written for a magazine. After downing, his third martini. This editor, an older man finally admitted to me why he had asked me to lunch. “. You should seriously consider a different career,”. He told me “, You are not writer material
Your work is too undisciplined. Your style is too bizarre. Your ideas are just not relatable to the average reader Go to law. School Robert go to business school spare yourself, the pain .” At first. These words were like a punch in the stomach, but in the months to come, I realized something about myself. I had entered a career that just didn’t suit me, mostly as a way to make a living, and my work reflected this incompatibility. I had to get out of journalism:
This realization initiated a period of wandering in my life I travelled all across Europe. I worked every conceivable job. I did construction work in Greece. Taught English in Barcelona and worked as a hotel receptionist in Paris. A tour guide in Dublin served as a trainee for an English company making television documentaries living not far from here in Brixton. During. All of this time I wrote several novels that never made it past 100 pages and dozens of essays that I would tear up and plays that never got produced. I wandered back to Los Angeles, California, where I was born and raised. I worked in a detective agency. Among other odd jobs,
I entered the film business working as an assistant to a director as a researcher story, developer and screenwriter. In these long years of wandering, I had totalled over 50 different jobs. By the year 1995. My parents, God bless them, were beginning to get seriously worried about me. I was 36 years old and I seemed lost and unable to settle into anything.
I too had moments of doubt, but I did not feel lost. I was searching and exploring. I was hungry for experiences and I was continuously writing That same year, while in Italy for yet another job, I met a man there named Joost Elffers, a packager and producer of books. One day, while we were walking along the quays of Venice Joost asked me if I Had any ideas for a book Suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, an idea just gushed out of me,
It was about power. I told Joost that I was constantly reading books on history and the stories that I read about Julius Caesar. The Borgias and Louis XIV were the same stories that I had personally witnessed with my own eyes in all of my different jobs. Only less bloody ( Laughter, ) People want power and they want to disguise this wanting of power, so they play games. They covertly manipulate and intrigue all the while presenting a nice even saintly front. I would expose these games
I gave him numerous examples of what I meant and he became increasingly excited. He said I should write a treatment and if it was good enough, he would pay me to live. While I wrote half the book enough to sell it to a publisher Suddenly in writing. What would become “ The 48 laws of power,”? Everything in my disjointed past seemed to click into place like magic, like destiny. All of those various writing experiences journalism, television, theater, the film had given me the skills to tell stories and organize my thoughts. All of that reading of history had given me a vast storehouse of ideas that I could draw upon, and my work as a researcher had taught me how to find the perfect anecdote. Even those different, seemingly random jobs had exposed me to every type of psychology and the dark corners of the human psyche.
Even the languages I learned while traveling taught me patience and discipline All of these experiences added up to rich layers of knowledge and practice that altered me from the inside out. In my own, very weird and intuitive way, I had given myself the perfect education for the writing of “ The 48 laws of power .”. The book came out in 1998 and it was a success. The course of my life was forever altered.
The moral of this story, as I told the people who would come to me for advice and as I’m telling you now is the following: We humans tend to fixate on what we can see with our eyes. It is the most animal part of our nature When we look at the changes and transformations in other people’s lives. We see the good luck that someone had in meeting a person like Joost with all of the right connections and the funding. We see the book or the project that brings money and the attention
In other words, we see the visible signs of opportunity and success, — change in our own lives, but we are grasping at an illusion. What allows for such dramatic changes are the things that occur on the inside of a person and are completely invisible. The slow accumulation of knowledge and skills, the incremental improvements in work habits and the ability to withstand criticism. Any change in people’s fortune is merely the visible manifestation of all of that deep preparation over time. By essentially ignoring this internal invisible aspect, we fail to change anything fundamental within ourselves.
The key to transforming yourself — Robert Greene at TEDxBrixton
And so in a few year’s time, we reach our limits. Yet again we grow frustrated. We crave change, we grab at something quick and superficial and we remain prisoners forever of these recurring patterns in our lives. The answer to the key to the ability to transform ourselves is insanely simple to reverse this perspective. Stop fixating, on what other people are saying and doing on the money. The connections, the outward appearance of things. Instead, look inward and focus on the smaller internal changes that lay the groundwork for a much larger change in fortune. It is the difference between grasping at an illusion and immersing yourself in reality,
Reality is what will liberate and transform you. Here’s how this would work in your own life. Consider the fact that every one of you is a fundamentally unique one of a kind, your DNA, the particular configuration of your brain, and your life experiences In early childhood. This uniqueness manifested itself in the fact that you felt particularly drawn to certain subjects and activities. What I call in my book mastery ,’ primal inclinations. You, cannot rationally explain why you felt so drawn to words or music or particular questions about the world around you or social dynamics.
As you get older, you often lose contact with these inclinations. You listen to parents who urge you to follow a particular career path. You listen to teachers and alcoholic magazine editors who tell you what you’re good and bad at You listen to friends who tell you! What’s cool and not cool At a certain point, you can almost become a stranger to yourself, and so you enter career paths that are not suited to you emotionally and intellectually
Your life’s task, as I call it, is to return to those inclinations and to that uniqueness that marked every one of you at birth, At whatever age you find yourself, you must reflect upon those earliest inclinations. You must look at those subjects in the present that continued to spark that childlike, intense curiosity in you. You must look at those subjects and activities that you’ve been forced to do over the past few years that repel you that have no emotional resonance. Based. In these reflections. You determine a direction you must take writing or music or a particular branch of science or a form of business or public service.
You now have a loose overall framework which you can explore and find those angles and positions that suit you best. You listen closely to yourself on your internal radar. Some parts of that framework for me, journalism and Hollywood, do not feel right. So you move on slowly. Narrowing your path, all the while accumulating skills
Most people want simple, direct straight-line paths to the perfect position and success, but instead, you must welcome wrong, turns and mistakes. They make you aware of your flaws. They widen your experiences, they toughen you up. If you come to this process at a later age, you must cultivate a new set of skills that suit this change in direction. You’ll be taking and finding a way to blend them with your previous skills. Nothing in this process is ever wasted. In any event, the gold that you are after is learning and the acquisition of skills, not a fat paycheck.
Look at what happens to you as you adopt this very different internally-driven mindset Because you are headed in a direction that resonates with you emotionally and personally. The hours of practice and study do not seem so burdensome. You can sustain your attention and your interest for much longer periods. What excites you is the learning process itself, overcoming obstacles, and increasing your skill. Level. You are immersed in the present instead of constantly obsessing over the future, and so you pay greater attention to the work itself and the people around you developing patience and social intelligence.
Without forcing the issue, a point is reached in which you are thoroughly prepared from within The slightest opportunity. That comes the way you will now exploit. You will draw opportunities for yourself, because people will sense how prepared you are, which is, I believe, what happened to me with Joost. Some of this might sound a bit mystical, but the results of this process that I’m talking about have been corroborated by recent scientific research, Most notably the 1995’s study. By Anders Ericsson yielded the very famous 10,000-hour rule.
In tracking people who had devoted years of their lives to learning chess or music Ericsson discovered that somewhere near that magical mark of 10,000 hours of practice, the minds of these people suddenly became much more creative and fluid. The structures of their brains had been altered by all of those hours of practice, and at that 10,000-hour mark, we could see a visible transformation in their performance and creativity. That is a level you will reach naturally and organically if you follow this process far enough. Finally, what I’m proposing to you right now is, I think, rather radical, namely, the way to transform yourself is through your work. I know this runs counter to our prevailing cultural prejudices. Work is too ugly, too boring too banal.
Self-Transformation, we think, comes through a spiritual journey therapy, a guru who tells us what to do intense group experiences, social experiences and drugs, But most of these are ways of running away from ourselves and relieving our chronic boredom They’re not connected to process. So any changes that occur don’t last. Instead, through our work we can connect to who we are instead of running away By entering that slow organic process, we can change ourselves from the inside out in a way, that’s very real and very lasting
This process involves a journey of self-discovery that can be seen as quite spiritual if you like At the end of this process, we contribute something unique and meaningful to our culture through our work, which is hardly ugly, boring or banal. Thank you very much. ( Applause, )
Transformation! 